Success of any form has been the driving factor for human will and determination. One way or another we want to be good at something or remembered for something. I have noticed though how so many people are more concerned and comfortable with planning their vacation but are totally clueless when it comes to planning their own lives. Often they find out too late that there is not much structure or order in their lives to help them achieve their dreams and desires and this leads to them spiralling into a rat race.
So how do we get out of this mess and get our lives back on track?
Below i outline 10 ideas to help you set goals in your life and hopefully this will turn yours around in no time. Lets go
1. Make a list of things that are really important to you.
This seems simple but usually turns out to be the most difficult bit of this exercise. Here you have to differentiate between your actual needs and your wants. I will not get into detail as to which is which but i will ask this. What is really important to you? Is it Family, leisure, personal development, business, your career or retirement? Write that down so that you do not lose sight of where you are going.
2. Set timelines to your goals.
Remember very well what you want to achieve, what is your goal? The more concrete the better. Consider then what you must do to achieve this and stipulate a realistic timeframe. Many people set goals but do not set timelines which easily falls into chaos.
3. Visualize yourself in the future.
E. Nightingale concluded after a study of what makes people successful: “We are what we think.” The image that dominates our brains most of the time is how we end up. Therefore, seeing where you want to be in life is crucial in achieving success. It helps us keep the most important things in life on our mind. Nightingale says that the easiest way to achieve our goals is to pretend we have achieved already. In other words, walk, talk and act like you have experienced all the success you look forward to. This act is a self fulfilling prophecy: where if you cannot see it then you cannot believe it and achieve it.
4. Breakdown your goals to milestones.
By making a list of things you care about, you start creating images in your mind. These allow you to convert knowledge into targeted action. When your goals are planted in your subconscious they will make you take action. Your behavior is influenced by your subconscious mind and the thoughts and ideas that you have in your subconscious – positive or negative-determine your actions. So take your goals block by block so that you do not suffer from burnout.
5. Create your own storyboard.
Take blank paper and paste pictures from magazines, books and newspapers on things that you want to achieve. We humans once thought in pictures. In this way, you will always visually inspire and motivate yourself to achieve.
6. Write to yourself how your ideal day must look.
Now this may sound weird but learn to write to yourself in the present tense, as if it is so. Try to involve feelings, senses and emotions to it. What you hear, what you taste, what you feel? write it down as a reminder to yourself of where you want to be.
7. Purposefully plan every day.
Every morning and every evening visualize what your goal is and how your ideal life looks like. Make it a priority to be intentional in everything you do, you need to be thorough in outlining your day. Understand that very few things happen by chance, so it is up to you to increase your chances of being lucky by planning. Make it habit to make up a list of at least 5 things you need to achieve in the day, in order of importance.
8. Be realistic.
The worst from of self sabotage is chasing unrealistic goals. Learn to be objective in your thinking, this will allow you to adapt to changes in your circumstance or environment. By all means dream big so much the your dream scares you but be practical in the realisation of that dream.
9. Evaluate your actions.
Evaluate every week and month of your progress, what went well, what wen wrong and why, what can you improve. If you get stuck, ask for help, it is not a sign of weakness but it actually shows how much you are willing to put in to make things work. If something is not working, try something new, do not waste time and resources on things that do not bring you positive returns. Do not be afraid to try new things.
10. Never give up.
Everything takes time, focus on your actions and not too much on the result, if you do your everyday actions and learn from them, soon you will see the result. Always trust the process, regardless of how long it will take you, take it one step at a time. Remember, the whole world is waiting for you to become the best version of yourself, so do not stop at nothing. Be who you are destined to be.
How have you brought structure and order into your own life? Share your tips and hints in the comments.