- self growth
Evolve or die, it’s a simple principle yet so powerful. If you’re not learning, growing and evolving from who you were yesterday – who you will be tomorrow is going to be no better.
Put simply, If you’re not growing… you are falling behind.
Now more than ever there has been a drive to push reading books, and the reason for that is basic. When you read you learn, when you learn you grow. The one ultimate game changer in life is a mentality that never stops learning.
Take a minute and think about some of the most successful people you know.
I would bet they are great with people, are super-productive, and think differently than most. After all, that’s how they got to be where they are today.
According to an HBR article, “Nike founder Phil Knight so reveres his library that when you enter you have to take off your shoes and bow.”
Oprah Winfrey credits books with much of her success: “Books were my pass to personal freedom.” She has shared her reading habit with the world via her book club. These 2 are not just the only high profile names that have a great reading regime.
Warren Buffett spends five to six hours per day reading five newspapers and 500 pages of corporate reporte.
Bill Gates reads about 50 books per year.
Mark Zuckerberg reads at least one book every two weeks.
Elon Musk grew up reading two books a day, accirding to his brother .
Mark Cuban reads more than 3 hours everyday. Arthur Blank, co-founder of Home Depot, reads two hours a day.
Billionaire entrepreneur David Rubenstein reads six books a week.
Dan Gilbert, self-made billionaire and owner of the Cleveland Cavaliers, reads one to two hours a day.
Have i sold you yet on the importance of reading?
I cannot over emphasise the importance of developing a reading habit. The habit will create a new system for you that gets you ready to succeed. What you read is entirely up to you and where you want to go or be in life but allow me to recommend some of my favourite reads to date.We all are searching for power of some type. We may not say it out loud, but deep inside we all know that this is a true statement . Click To Tweet
This book for me is “phenomenal”. Its addresses i would say everyone’s most burning question – Will I Succeed? Have you ever imagined what your life would look like if you gave it everything you had? And I mean everything, putting in the work and the effort! Average Skill Phenomenal Will is a life changing offering. What is emphasises is It’s ok if you have average skill because, if you have Phenomenal Will, the world can be yours! I know it’s hard to believe but, If you have the drive and the passion to say I will make it then this read is for you.
2.The Alchemist- Paulo Coelho
This should be in everyone’s library in whatever form you can find it. The Alchemist is more self-help than literature. The advice given to the main character, Santiago that “when you really want something to happen, the whole universe will conspire so that your wish comes true” is the core of the novel’s philosophy and that makes it a book about destiny. I love the wisdom in this book and how it tackles day to day living. My favourite quote is “When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
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3.Mastery – Robert Greene
Become who you are by learning who you are… Mastery is just class from start to finish, this book teaches how to become so good at what you do, regardless of what it is you do. We all are searching for power of some type. We may not say it out loud, but deep inside we all know that this is a true statement. Whether it’s power through success or power through knowledge or whatever, we are all searching. On this quest for power we usually find that we have personal obstacles that get in our way, that we struggle to overcome, and block us at every turn. This book, Mastery by Robert Green wants to teach you how to overcome one of the biggest obstacles we face.
4.Daughters Of Africa – Margaret Busby
A magnificent starting place for any reader interested in becoming part of the collective enterprise of discovering and uncovering the silent, forgotten, and underrated voices of black women.
From all over the world and through the ages, here is a dazzling collection of two hundred women writers of African descent, showcased as never before, including:
Toni Cade Bambara, Gwendolyn Brooks, Alice Childress, Maryse Conde, Aldo do Espirito Santo, Marita Golden, Pilar Lopez Gonzales, June Jordan, Terry McMillan, Queen of Sheba, Sojourner Truth, Harriet Tubman, Phillis Weatley, and many, many others.
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5.The Art of War – Sun Tzu
I quoted Sun Tzu so much in my own book World War You – How to Overcome Yourself. Mainly because i found his writings very practical and straight to the point. The Art of War is a book which should be used to gain advantage of opponents in the boardroom and battlefield alike. No matter where you are in life there are gems that you can get from this book to apply to your life. Strategy never gets old, and this book is full of it.
Hope you like the short list i provider of some of my must reads. Feel free to share with us your favourites in our comments section. You can also checkout our resources for more exciting books our community recommends.
“Faith in oneself is the best and safest course.” – Michelangelo
When we do work that is meaningful or that serves an obvious purpose, we feel empowered and connected to our life. However, mindless work with no explicit purpose or observed results make us feel disconnected, bored and in some cases depressed.
People love things that challenge them. Challenges force our creativity to flourish. When we come across obstacles, we kick into high gear to overcome them. This is where deliberate living comes into play.
In the previous posts i have shared about how we need to lock in and be intentional about the way we want to live life. Deliberate living is kind of the icing on the cake. Many of us are going through life and not actually living life. We are not really in control of what is happening but we react to our environment and circumstances.
Let me introduce you to internal motivation or intrinsic motivation. It is the driving force behind your thoughts and choices regarding your career, hobbies, relationships, and other activities. It doesn’t concern itself with outside influences or external factors. Instead, internal motivation is centered on your personal desires and needs. So if you want to learn how to motivate yourself so you can begin achieving your goals and being a better you, keep on reading.
Internal motivation occurs when you act upon your impulses without the need for external rewards, such as money or recognition. These actions are, instead, inspired by happiness, exploration, or knowledge. It could be a hobby, like gardening, or it could be a fulfilling career, such as teaching.
When you pursue an activity for the sheer joy of it, you’re doing so because you’re intrinsically motivated. You engage in the activity simply because you choose to. It means something to you. And that, in itself, can be its own reward. However, when you’re driven by external motivation, you do things to gain external rewards. In this case, you’re motivated by factors outside of you. Parents, colleagues, friends and society come into play here.
To put it plainly, here’s the difference between the motivators.
Internal: singing as a form of creative expression and passion for music.
External: singing to gain fame in the music industry.
Internal: becoming a medical doctor because of your caring nature or interest in medicine and the human body.
External: becoming a medical doctor to earn a high salary.
Internal: reading a resourceful book for enjoyment.
External: reading a resourceful book as part of a school or work assignment.
Although there’s nothing inherently wrong with being guided by external factors, it’s important to understand that external situations aren’t always permanent. They tend to be far more fickle. And sometimes, external motives can also be counterproductive. For instance, you may need to switch companies, or your salary may decrease. You might have to relocate to another city. That’s why, in spite of what’s happening around you, you need to be aware of the internal motives behind your actions. Deliberate living needs to be exactly that. Deliberate.
So how does one get motivated into deliberate living? Three things are key: Purpose, Mastery and Autonomy.
It’s perfectly natural to want your work and efforts to mean something. But your craving for purpose may be more important to your wellbeing than you realise. Injecting a sense of purpose into your life increases productivity and engagement. The happiest people are the ones that feel their efforts serve something greater than themselves. When you feel like your work has meaning, you become more invested in it. You care about the quality of what you produce. And that care shows.
Believe me, after a certain amount, money doesn’t buy happiness. What does consistently make people happy, however, is the ability to create or contribute to something that will outlast themselves and that makes the world a better place. And luckily, there are so many problems that need solved in the world, there’s plenty of purpose to go around!
Think back to the last time you really struggled to master something but finally did. It was exhilarating, right? You probably felt confident and proud of yourself, and like you could overcome anything you put your mind to.
Overcoming challenges and mastering new skills feels good because it’s what you’re designed to do! As people we are deep, creative thinkers; we love to solve problems. But mastery requires constant and consistent engagement.
You may not be able to change your environment but you can absolutely increase your own ability to engage with your environment.
Autonomy in the business world is the ability to work unsupervised. When you’re autonomous, there’s no manager hanging over your shoulder, judging your every move, waiting to punish or reward behavior. You’re free to work at the pace that suits you.
Now i believe that applying this concept in your day to day life will also bring great results. Working autonomously might seem like it’d be a sure gateway to laziness but studies show this couldn’t be farther from the truth. If you learn to keep yourself motivated, you will achieve goals on your terms.
As a gentle reminder, try using the following techniques to help you rediscover your internal motivation:
- Visualise. Ignite your passion through visualization. Close your eyes and visualise yourself achieving your life goals.
- Rest. Even if you’re pursuing something that you’re passionate about, rest is vital. Take breaks and recharge when you need to.
- Focus. There’s no competition when you’re focusing on yourself. Ignore the competition and focus your energy on becoming your very best.
- Listen. Push your passion further by listening to uplifting audiobooks, documentaries, or lectures.
Control. Take your control back. Only you have the power to create your dreams and generate motivation.
Circumstances may change. Your external environment may not always remain the same. So if you really want to learn how to motivate yourself, it must center on the one constant throughout your life: YOU.
“Real transformation requires real honesty. If you want to move forward – get real with yourself.” Bryant McGill
Have you ever taken the time to ask yourself what it takes to be better or succeed? It takes time, focus, perseverance, feedback, opportunity. It’s far more complex and difficult than rolling out a program, printing a poster and logging into an app.
Deliberate transformation takes time. Deliberate transformation takes discipline. It takes dedication, but believe me, it is worth it.
Last week, I spoke in depth about deliberate practice. How we need to be focussed on the execution of our skills if we are to master our craft. Moving onto deliberate transformation, I want to talk about 5 key elements that will make the change smoother.
Let’s face it, we all have complexities, such as personal detrimental characteristics that we cannot take with us to the positive that life has for us. These may be but not limited to pride, greed, selfishness, bitterness, strongholds of some sort like (fear), insecurity or hunger for power. Many people are often rigid or stubborn in this phase because they hardly look at themselves as being the problem.Dysfunction is not a circumstance around you but a condition inside you that needs to be worked on. Click To Tweet
Deliberate transformation reveals your hidden and suppressed desires and behaviour, it deals with you on a personal level. This means you need to allow it to change through its positive traits. By letting it mould and modify your character, making you more patient, long-suffering, hard-working or stable through the unstable environment it will expose you to.
In my book World War You, I talk about it like this ” Dysfunction is not a circumstance around you but a condition inside you that needs to be worked on. In other words, things are not working for you not because the things around you are the problem but rather YOU are the problem.” Let’s pause and think about that.
It is a bit heavy I know but it is also true, and this leads me back to these 5 major keys that allow us to understand why deliberate transformation is necessary. Think of it this way.
Training – introduces us to new material.
Coaching – makes it personal.
Mentoring – embeds the transformation.
Sponsorship – takes is further.
Advocacy – leverages your transformation.
The starting point to any transformation process is to know where you are and then decide on where you want to be. The journey in the middle is one of learn, do, relearn, redo. And perhaps more importantly, I have noticed that helping someone see the progress they have made is critical to them seeing they have changed, knowing they can change, and having a sense of confidence that the change will serve their goals.The starting point to any transformation process is to know where you are and then decide on where you want to be. Click To Tweet
Based on those 5 keys, we are positioned in either one of these 4 spaces in our transformation journey.
- Stuck – with a fixed mindset and skillset. You are making no progress and largely unaware of your circumstances. It is what it is and you can’t see a way forward to change it. You are unconsciously incompetent and you haven’t got the awareness or resources to know what to do next. It’s both disaster and disappointment waiting to happen.
- When you and here, you need to stop. Evaluate and make one significant change towards your preferred future.
- Stationary – with a fixed skillset and an agile mindset. Mentally you are growing but not translating that into changed action and behaviours. You intellectualise everything and have reasons (excuses) for why there is an uplift in your knowledge but nothing seems to largely change in your behaviour. Like Newtons Second law you continue at a state of rest. It looks busy but progress is slow or non-existent. You know you need to change but you are not changing and this is a dangerous place to be. When you are here, you need to place yourself in an accountable relationship where the motivation to change is high and the cost of not changing is great. Disciplined growth is your key to progress.
- Sabotage – with a fixed mindset and an agile skillset. You have natural skills but feel like you have hit a wall. Your best option is to “do” your way through this but the real change lies deep in your head and heart. You reflect the Joseph Campbell quote “The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” This is not a matter of your competency, it’s an issue of your maturity and formation. If you feel you are here, you need to sit with a trusted advisor or mentor and ask them to act as a mirror for you. Tell you the things you know deep down to be true but need help and support to face, challenge and change.
- Moving – having an agile skillset and flexible mindset. You have taken the time to challenge your thinking and learn new attitudes and mindsets. And you have also leaned into opportunities and experiences that have added to and sharpened your skills. You are self-aware yet walk with a sense of self-confidence and humility. You know you are adding value and you are now focused on adding value to others.
If you are at this stage, your transformation journey is on track. You cannot fix others before you fix yourself. Knowing yourself better and being better means the rest of the world gets to interact with a more finer version of you.
In order for us to move closer to the Moving stage, the following steps can be actioned and revised when necessary.
- Be clear about your current reality.
- Engage a coach and/or mentor.
- Implement new thinking and skills as fast as possible.
- Practice reflections IN action. Evaluate and adjust where needed.
- Create a culture that calls UP the best in you and others.
So be it in business, your career or relationships. If you need to change for the better, be deliberate and honest with yourself. Address the stage your journey is at and make the necessary adjustments to be better.
Get your life back, it is the only one you have.
“The great improvers are willing to get uncomfortable and make the mental and physical effort to correct a flaw.” – Hank Haney
Deliberate practice is a term coined by renowned psychologist K. Anders Ericsson. This was after landmark research on how we attain mastery in a given pursuit. I don’t believe in perfection as a standard thats why I believe practice doesn’t make perfect but it makes permanent.The investment into getting it right in private is significant because the payoff of getting it right in public is more significant. Click To Tweet
Perhaps you’ve heard that it takes about10,000 hours to master a given skill. That number comes from Ericsson’s 1993 study of violinists at a music academy in Berlin. The researchers gathered vast data on all the students — the brilliant performers who would build careers with elite orchestras, and the mediocre performers who would become high school music teachers — and found they were mostly the same. In fact, they differed significantly in only one measure: total lifetime hours spent on deliberate practice.
By the time they graduated, the best performers had racked up about 10,000 hours practising, while the mediocre ones had logged about half that. Later research in many other fields has supported those findings.
There’s something meaningful about that number of hours of deliberate practice. Top performers of every kind — brain surgeons, jet pilots, business leaders, musicians, athletes — attain excellence in their respective fields through deliberate practice.
When considering the idea of deliberate practice, the behaviour of the world’s greatest golfer Tiger Woods is instructive. In his book The Big Miss, Hank Haney, Woods’s coach from 2004 to 2010, observed that on the range Woods would rarely hit more than 25 balls before taking a seat in his cart, where he would stare silently and think about what he was doing. Haney wrote: “To me, it was an example of a great performer doing… ‘deliberate practice.’ “ In his own way, Woods was engaged in the hard mental work of fixing a weakness. “A lot of players hit a lot of balls but focus only on their strengths,” Haney continued.
Thanks in large part to his father, Woods had 19 years and some 12,000 hours of deliberate practice under his belt by the time he won the Masters in 1997, at age 21. Now, you are probably asking yourself how do I achieve this deliberate practice. I mean, 10,000 hours; that’s roughly three hours a day for the next nine years. You have a job, a family, a life. Impossible right? I will tell you though that you can improve significantly by grabbing hours wherever you can, as long as you’re doing deliberate practice.
The investment into getting it right in private is significant because the payoff of getting it right in public is more significant. Deliberate practice can be summed up in these 4 key elements.
- DELIBERATE PRACTICE IS HIGHLY PERSONALISED
What you need to work on is unique to you. Few everyday people understand how to practice in a way that leads to actual improvement. You need a personalised plan that stretches your comfort zone. Only you — and your mentor, if you have one, knows what that is. Ask yourself what skills and situations make you uncomfortable and what you’d like to do well, and then devise a plan to work on those areas. Find the areas where you want to improve, then focus on drills that challenge you.
- DELIBERATE PRACTICE SHOULD PUSH YOU JUST BEYOND YOUR ABILITIES
We’re talking about taking a step outside your comfort zone, not a giant leap. Small-chunk it. Seeking out what we do poorly is not most people’s idea of fun, so few of us do it. But the high performers find deep satisfaction in the challenge and immersion in the task. You have heard the saying that practice makes perfect. That is because it hammers out the clinks and the clanks. So lock in on your shortfalls and be deliberate about pushing the limits.
- DELIBERATE PRACTICE MUST BE REPEATED AT HIGH VOLUME
The high performers repeat their practice at stultifying length, I just had to throw in that big word. Sam Snead hit balls all day, then practised by his car’s headlights at night. Ted Williams hit baseballs until his hands bled. Pete Maravich shot baskets in the school gym from dawn to dusk. Now brain science reveals why high-volume repetition is critical and this is because of Myelin.
Myelin is a substance in the brain that builds up around certain circuits, much like insulation around an electrical wire. Performing an activity repeatedly sends signals through a highly-specific brain circuit that builds myelin, creating what some call muscle memory. The great performers have myelin in exactly the right places. For some, years of poor practice have built up so much myelin around the wrong circuit that it’s practically armour-plated.
- DELIBERATE PRACTICE REQUIRES CONTINUAL, SPECIFIC FEEDBACK
We all have blind spots, so we need a coach, or, failing that, sound feedback. Whether you want to become the next Tiger Woods or Mark Zuckerberg, the research in various fields strongly suggests that you can’t improve if you don’t know how you’re doing. In golf, you see how each shot turns out, but you don’t see yourself hitting it. That means you don’t know why it turned out the way it did.
What’s worse, we often think we know why it turned out that way, but we are wrong. A good teacher is an ideal solution; another option for athletes specifically is watching and analysing videos of yourself. Expert feedback corrects mistakes that you may not know you’re committing. Without it, progress is virtually impossible. That’s the reason why authors have editors, entrepreneurs have mentors and sports personalities have coaches.
Deliberate practice is a bit uncomfortable. It will take time. But now you can choose to walk the same well-lit path that other masters have traversed. Believe it or not, you have no idea how good you can get. I saw Steph Curry make a 3 -point shot with his eyes closed – muscle memory. Start locking in your deliberate practice, be so intentional your brain has no choice but to get accustomed to getting better.
You came into this world with the same inborn ability to achieve greatness that all the greats did. No one’s cut from a different cloth. What you need is more hours of deliberate practice.
“Imagination is the beginning of creation. You imagine what you desire, you will what you imagine and at last you create what you will”. – George Bernard Shaw
Creatives, very important and pivotal to the advancement of the world. And being part of creatives I often ask myself. What is it you really want? Is it something you want to do, something you want to have, someone you’d like to be? What is it that really excites you when you think about it? (If you haven’t figured that part out yet, start by making a list of all the things you enjoy.)
One of the best gifts you get in life is to be creative. Without using your incredible imagination to dream dreams of wonderful events, careers, travel and vacation, and even helping other people you’re missing out on huge life benefits. This is the reason why creatives are needed.
The way your incredible brain is wired is to support you in setting goals, visualising and attaining them. In short, our brain is a goal-seeking missile. By using your creative imagination you can explore new territory you never thought possible. You learn a new musical instrument, take up a new hobby. Leave the corporate world and start your own business. My creativity led me to share what I learned in my personal journey to inspire other people to be better.Why Dreams matter, dreams have no limits and dreams keep you motivated to work Click To Tweet
In 1998, when I first contemplated writing lyrics for songs all I knew was it seemed like a really cool thing to do. I just saw it as a great way to express yourself. I had no sense of meter and relied heavily on listening to other creatives make music. After mechanically working my way through my first few raps I started to get a feel for it and lyrics just flowed to me.
I had no idea when I started to write these lyrics that almost 20 years later it would lead to writing a book. And when my book World War You was published, I didn’t expect the momentum. If someone had asked me soon after it was published if I would write another one, my answer would have been “maybe”. Fast track to now and I’m working on a second one.The process is preparing you to make your dream become your reality Click To Tweet
Now to give you some contest, when I decided to write the book I had no formal training or publishing team, just a passion for what I wanted to do and a message to share. I published this book because of my passion. The passion came from the vision I had created and the feeling it gave me when I thought about doing it. Very simple steps. At times it felt like it was manifesting quite slowly, but then you turn around one day and notice how much has happened and wonderful it is to have achieved your goal.
I know you have that one thing that gives you the same feeling. That one thing that wakes you up in the morning and you smile, (not your alarm).
If you are not sure just answer these few questions for me right now. Do you want to do something bigger? Something different? Something fun?
Now that you are there, get a clear picture in your mind of what you want (see it). Spend at least five minutes a day visualising what it is like to already have what you want (feel it). Now be in that moment and embrace your dream (be it).
If it’s a new house, imagine the way you’ll set up the furniture, the nice friendly neighbours next door, the beautiful flowers you will plant over the weekend. Literally, sit in your new kitchen and enjoy a cup of tea.
The beauty of creativity is it has no limits, no boundaries. Change the picture every day and add something new, keep making it better.
I do not know what your creative side is, and I do not know what you are working toward. What I do know is you have the ability to make it happen. I need you to see it, focus on it until it is so vivid that it pushes you to execute. Write that song, paint that picture, take that risk and make it happen.
Lastly, be thankful and express your gratitude in your visualisations for having achieved your desired goal. Now is that time and you are that person to do it. Keep dreaming and execute, you are manifesting your goal. The process is preparing you to make your dream become your reality.
Are you ready to be part of the creatives?
“Instead of trying to build a brick wall, lay a brick everyday. Eventually you’ll look up and you’ll have a brick wall.” – Nipsey Hussle
The marathon continues… Top of the Top… Victory Lap… Crenshaw… King Nipsey
In the past few weeks, the phrase above and one name have dominated the internet and entertainment news. Nipsey Hussle.
I shall not get into much detail about him but his life and death has caused many conspiracy theories. From big pharma assassinations, Illuminati sacrifices and gang-related violence.
For me, the rabbit-hole led me to research about his life and community activism and what I found out was amazing. You can read about some of it here.
I believe we are all born into genius. You’ve been built to amaze. And you’re designed to make history. The only problem is, do YOU know it and are you willing to do it.
It all comes down to discovering your “Why”, reconnecting with your purpose and radiating your passion. I know this sounds simple, it should be but is it really? While I was reading about Nispey I found out he was big on personal development. Most of his conversation was him talking about a book he was reading, a new habit he was instilling or a better routine he was working on. Because of this those around recognized him for his mastery, celebrated his acumen and praised his excellence.
He was fresh and brave, he would befriend a stranger, deliver hope to the hopeless and model decency. This came about only after he turned pain into power, fear into fortune and confusion into clarity. We are often victims of the world in general but it takes you working to let go of your past, rewire your present and rewrite your future.
You need to get to that point where you release your excuses, shatter your doubts and break free of your chains. What happens after this process is you open yourself to set larger goals, take bigger risks and go to your limits.
I believe personal development is the only way you will experience true gratitude, speak real appreciation and feel sincere happiness. Regardless of how people perceived Nipsey, he was all right with himself. He was quoted saying “I’m at peace with what I’m doing, I feel good with what I wake up doing and about my lifestyle.” You need to get to that point where you do not need anyone’s approval to be you.
I bet if you ask any person that knew Nipsey on a personal level they would safely tell you how he showed uncommon kindness, was a giver, not a taker and left people better than they found them. This can be your legacy too, it can be your story. But the question is do you have the hunger to survive the principle of discipline so that you do not suffer the pain of regret? As a father, entertainer, entrepreneur and activist I learned so much from Nipsey. Was he perfect? I have no idea, but what he did teach through his very short life is that there is more joy in mastering yourself and pouring out yourself for the benefit of others.But in this time of deep uncertainty – where so many people live in fear – we all need to do everything possible to avoid negativity. To stay focused on opportunities versus problems. To keep our minds nice and free. Click To Tweet
I challenge you to discover you. For you to take that risk, finish that book, close that deal, push that boundary. Leave behind a story for people to tell about how you lived life and make it a positive one.
Borrowing from Morpheus in The Matrix here’s an interesting thought on how to live YOUR life. But in this time of deep uncertainty – where so many people live in fear – we all need to do everything possible to avoid negativity. To stay focused on opportunities versus problems. To keep our minds nice and free.
May I suggest you limit the amount of adverse news you expose the precious resource of your mind to. Surround yourself with inspired and upbeat people. Read great books. Think beautiful thoughts. Listen to uplifting music. Seek only positive energy.
During any challenging life cycle, commit even more fully to daily learning. In our everyday lives, there are lessons to make us better. The best in business – and in life – viscerally get that the best thinkers get the best results. So they invest in ideas and personal development. Because the more you grow as a person, the more you will grow in success. Though Nipsey Hussle is gone, millions will uphold his legacy forever.
What will your story be?
“My story is a freedom song of struggle. It is about finding one’s purpose, how to overcome fear and to stand up for causes bigger than one’s self” – Coretta Scott King
I don’t know about you but every day I am hearing people say “I know” when you discuss steps that they could take or a habit that could be overcome that would make their life more balanced. But we really need to listen to the words we say. When we say “I know” we signal the brain to shut down, as it believes that we are well acquainted and equipped with the experience or advice that is being discussed. In doing so we close ourselves off from vital information that would help propel us forward to a future that supports and expands our hopes and dreams. – To know – and not to do – is not to know.
We all have so much theory but it can only become a reality if we live it and this requires courage. Most people know this and that is the very reason they become disheartened and feel they can’t achieve it because they have so many fears around whatever it is they feel they have to do to achieve their purpose. But let me share a secret with you : Fear is the essential ingredient – without fear you will never acquire courage- they are the essential polarities.
Are you theorising about your life or are you taking ACTION? Taking “Action” is the way through fear- it doesn’t matter if it doesn’t all go according to plan, the essential thing is that you took a leap of faith and each time you do you start to move vibrationally.
The most important action you can take is to create a Personal Vision Statement.
Your personal vision statement guides your life by providing the direction necessary to guide the course of your days and the choices you make. It is the essential ingredient to creating your day so that you are in control of your destiny and not blown off course by the winds of apathy. Your personal vision statement should be inspiring enough to move you forward even though it brings up fears – this is the very result you want because by bringing up your fears you can address them. Many of these fears reside deep within the subconscious mind and they create emotions that cause you to stay stuck at the same vibrational pattern.
These subconscious thoughts are what create neural pathways in your brain. If you don’t bring them into the light you will always sabotage what you are trying to create. “Fear Is Stronger Than Love, Remember That…” This is what I understood from the words of Tupac Shakur above, we might have a passion for life but what actually motivates us is the fear of not experiencing the life we are passionate about – let that sink in.If we address why we don't want to be lonely we will begin to see who really deserves to be in our lives. Click To Tweet
What I mean is this, we are afraid of being lonely so we end up in toxic relationships, we fear to be poor so we work in jobs that don’t fulfil us, we fear rejection so we tolerate mediocrity and justify abuse. But if we actually address our fears we open up ourselves to a world of potential. If we address why we don’t want to be lonely we will begin to see who really deserves to be in our lives, if we address poverty we will see why we need to create avenues that sustain not just us as individuals but globally impact everyone.
So let’s get creating and celebrate when the fears surface because with a little bit of work and the right strategy your greatest weakness can become your greatest strength. Your deepest fear could be your access to your purpose, that one thing that will make you change the world. We would love you to share with us what your vision is and would be interested to know what fears may have surfaced as you first decided on your vision.
Looking forward to your comments.
“See how the mass of men worry themselves into nameless graves, while here and there a great unselfish soul forgets himself into immortality.” – Emerson
It is so easy to get caught up in the thick of thin things, to spend a career or a life just reacting to the trivialities of your daily hours rather than using your days to advance the creation of something great.
But leadership is about making things better. It’s about transcending the petty cravings of our egos and donating our lives to build something that will outlast us, a legacy of service. And when we really get this idea, we begin to experience true happiness, perhaps for the first time.
Your life is no accident. You are here for a purpose, some central mission that has the potential to make you extraordinary. Some main aim that – once focused on – breaks all chains that might have previously bound you. Your challenge is to discover your WHY.
Listen, there are no extra people on the planet. Each one of us has our own unique form of genius and authenticity within us that is aching to be accessed. The sad fact is that too many amongst us let the busyness of our lives suffocate the deeper purpose of our hearts. Rather than leading and being our best today, we lie to ourselves and say we’ll make the changes we need to make when the conditions are better. And that day never comes.
So we slowly shut down, the why becomes vague. Discouragement sets in. We start to medicate ourselves with too many petty things such as TV or technology. We smile the fake smile and coast out a life telling people that being brilliant is a fate selected for the chosen few. Rather than realising the truth: we wasted our lives.
I was in the company of a certain gentleman who at just over 60, will be graduating with a law degree in 2019. Now, like me, you are probably thinking to yourself why would he do that, he probably doesn’t have time to establish himself as a lawyer. And you are probably right, but I will tell you that his WHY gives him greater reason not to look at his age but at what needs to be achieved.
I will give you a brief insight into his story, a few years ago he and his wife got divorced and because of a legal error by his lawyer, his wife ended up with all his wealth. So he said to me ” it would take me more time to try and build my wealth all over again than it would take me to study law and represent myself in court and get what is mine.” I will let that sink in a bit.
The moment your ‘why’ is greater than your excuses, the ‘how’ becomes easier. There is no kind of distraction that will move you away from your purpose if you clearly know why you need to do what you need to do.
The Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius wrote this in his book Meditations (1 of my favourite books, highly recommend): “Do external things distract you? Then make time for yourself to learn something worthwhile; stop letting yourself be pulled in all directions. But make sure you guard against the other kind of confusion. People who labour all their lives but have no purpose to direct every thought and impulse toward are wasting their time—even when hard at work.”
I want you to understand that it is important to live in your purpose not just because every day more of our life is used up and less and less of it is left, but this too: if we live longer, can we be sure our mind will still be up to understanding the world and why we are a part of it?
Without purpose, we’ll still go on breathing, go on eating, imagining things, feeling urges and so on but not getting the most out of ourselves, calculating where our duty lies, analysing what we hear and see, deciding whether it is taking us a step closer to who we are born to be.
So we need to hurry. Not just because we move daily closer to death but also because our understanding, our grasp of the world, may be gone before we get there.
There is only a few days left in 2018, define your why now and begin to move toward it.
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“They call every genius crazy” – Kanye West
The highway to the resident genius within you is a massively messy ride. The path to personal heroism and private elevation is confusing, uncomfortable and dangerous. And my loving (I really do love you) and deeply sincere suggestion to you is that, this way of living out the remainder of your life is the wisest and bravest decision you’ll ever make.
Your very legacy depends on this one choice. It does.
Not sure if I’m being super clear for you here, as I wish to be. So allow me to break it down to little bits. We live in a broken world that tries to make us conform to its brokenness:
1 –we flee our creativity and purpose through an addiction to escapism on our phones, mindless video games and following the days of people we don’t even know on the “social” media who only show you what they want you to see from their un-perfect lives; because we all have parts of our lives that are under construction.
2 –a person who fiercely protects their productivity, ferociously expresses their greatest talents and joyfully does work that serves many is considered weird or a show-off.
3 –someone who works really hard, shows up early, over-delivers on expectations, has good manners, sweats tiny details and keeps their promises is called strange.
4 –one who verbally appreciates people, smiles with radiant positivity and looks people in the eyes versus down at some device, wears their feelings on their sleeves and stands for a blinding love of humanity is considered a freak.
5 –an individual who dares to be an individual, soaks in their originality and pursues their own colourful vision of a glorious ambition is labeled an eccentric.
In a damaged world a truly high-functioning human is not only vastly misunderstood. They are seen as broken or a misfit. See, the job of society is to get you to fit in and never stand out. The main aim of our culture is to produce factory workers who think like the herd, behave like the crowd and smother the fire for outright greatness that is the natural birthright of every one of us.
“Don’t you dare think you can play at world-class”, they tell you. “You come from a 3rd world country”, they tell you. “It has never been done before in your lineage”, they tell you. Be not so foolish to believe you can do work that wows, have health that soars and a life that allows you to feel alive. And make history in your own unique way not what society tells you.
Nope, this society we are in wants you to:
1 –Stay on that phone, enslaved.
2 –Numb out those feelings.
3 –Block those brave thoughts.
4 –Stifle the big ideas that would allow you to own your industry and sphere.
5 –Dismiss your instincts to choose mastery over mediocrity of your craft.
6 –Close that heart that longs to open and connect.
7 –Miss the breezes, avoid the magical moments, starry nights, simple food beautifully prepared, children laughing in a playground, a wise book that stirs your soul, music that makes you want to jump like you were 5 again.
8 –And definitely, don’t talk to strangers.
This is the world that we are in now, where the need to fit in is greater than the need to stand out. Now I need you to understand this, I’ve never said I was a guru at this. Never. No interest in that. No need for you to applaud me, appreciate me or elevate me. I have my talents. And I have my flaws. I have my precious hopes for the future and carry the scars of my past cuts. Very imperfect. Just a man. Trying to be a light.
I love the line that says: everyone seems normal—until you get to know them. All I’m saying in this message is this, the things that make you a misfit in the eyes of the majority are the very things that make you special and great, beautiful and a standout. These are your gifts.
Maybe today, you and I will start honouring how we’re built. Celebrating what makes us who we are. And cherishing our personal wiring. George Bernard Shaw made the point so much more brilliantly than I can in this moment:
“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world. The unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”
In 2019, if you are to have what very few have you need to do what very few do. By these words I mean that to experience the rewards of the top .001% of producers on the planet, think Mandela, Gandhi, Musk, Branson, Serena, Messi, Da Vinci, Basquiat, Dangote, Masiyiwa—and that legendary Starbucks barista at the Melbourne airport named Alya who utterly models possibility, you need to get super-cool with being an outcast. And this is because every visionary is first ridiculed before they become revered.
So if you want your next year to be different I also strongly encourage you to let go of all your excuses and make the choice that will beautifully and swiftly elevate the rest of your life according to the purpose within you. There is only one you, and only you can do things the way that you do. So go out there and be unapologetically YOU.
If this post validates the way you would really love to start living and if you feel you’re finally ready to express your gifts, declare victory over your fears, feel extraordinarily happy, strong, peaceful and rise to a way of being that’s world-class then share with us your story in the comments section. We would love to hear it and cheer you on.