“People of mediocre ability sometimes achieve outstanding success because they don’t know when to quit. Most men succeed because they are determined to.” – George Allen
When life gets tough, how do you respond? Often it’s so much easier to find a shortcut “just this one time” or to give up entirely. Who will know? Answer: You will. There is a reason why you quit and I hope to shed some light on this bad habit. Yes, quitting is a habit.
Over the course of our lifetime, we’ll all face situations that test our will, defy our determination, and challenge our character. Remember, even if life were a bed of roses, you’d still need to navigate the thorns right?
Yet, even though our personal limits may be challenged and defeat is apparent, quitting should never be accepted as an option. Of course, that’s easier said than done –– we’re all human. The fact still remains that the difference between a winner and an ” I also-ran” isn’t always that the loser fell on hard times. Rather, the difference often lies in how the adversity was faced. While some people stare challenges right in the eye, others are quick to surrender to the same challenge. Which one are you?
Do you remember the time you started a book and didn’t finish? Or that time you PAID for gym membership and ended up cancelling? What about that doctor ordered diet that you quit on? You see where I am going with this right? You have been quitting on trivial stuff for a while now but guess what, it is because your mind now subconsciously seeks a way out. And below I will outline why you quit.
Afraid to lose. Some people give up before they even start. Their rationale is “Why make the effort when the odds of winning are stacked against me anyway?”
Lack of reality. Some folks are like a “deer in headlights.” When they’re faced with a challenge, they’re surprised, overwhelmed, and ill prepared to rise to the occasion.
Lack of confidence. Most people have a tendency to reach out for help when faced with a challenge. The problem is, the more reliant you are on others, the less reliant you are on yourself.
Fear of accountability. Other folks leave their future to fate. They reason, “If there’s nothing I can do to change the outcome, why even try?” Sounds like a recipe for failure. Here, the poet Nikki Giovanni offers some inspirational advice: “I really don’t think life is about the I-could-have-beens. Life is only about the I-tried-to-do. I don’t mind the failure but I can’t imagine that I’d forgive myself if I didn’t try“.
Lack of will. Some people don’t have the stomach to face adversity. They’ve given up so many times in life that they accept defeat without making an effort. That’s when you look to a well-known song by the Rolling Stones, who point out, “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you might find you get what you need.” Rock on!
The truth is that the above justifications are true & valid. They make complete sense. They are logical. But the fact remains, YOU QUIT. So my question to you is Are you ready to believe in yourself? Although it isn’t the first time you’ve faced a challenge like this, your body reacts the same way as before. It’s like a physical and emotional tidal wave that slams into you. Your palms get sweaty, your heart starts pounding, your blood pressure starts rushing, and an adrenaline rush kicks in. “Come on,” you say to yourself, “I’ve experienced this before.” The million-dollar question is, are you going to face the test or throw in the towel?
Face the test? Good . . . but are you really committed? I’m sure you see people every day who promise to go on a diet, eat healthier, exercise several days a week, or quit smoking. The problem is that they break their promise before they even finish their sentence. What about you? “This time it will be different,” you say.
Come on, who are you kidding? We’ve been down this road before. You’ve never kept a New Year’s resolution for more than two weeks. Why even go through the hassle, knowing that you’re probably going to break your word (again)?
Okay, seems harsh right? I am all up in your business right now. Well, If you’re really serious this time, promise yourself that you won’t quit. No matter what.
Don’t let others tell you that you can’t. What do they know about you? Don’t use other people as a crutch. Believe in yourself. You can do it. And please don’t think your challenge is going to be easy. It won’t be. If you set realistic expectations and follow a systematic process from the start, you can do it. You can win out over challenges that you face and here’s how:
- First, try to break BIG challenges into bite-size pieces. They won’t seem as overwhelming and you can focus your energies rather than getting spread too thin. Do not get roped int the ” I read a book a week” mantra, relax and take your time. The goal is to finish the book not speed read it.
- Then, rather than setting a long-term goal for yourself, create ambitious yet achievable, short-term milestones –– quick short-term wins will keep you motivated. Make sure you celebrate every win. Don’t spend your time complaining, worrying, or finding excuses. All that amounts to wasted energy. Do 2 push ups a day, cut 1 teaspoon of sugar out of your coffee. Small steps.
- And stop focusing on whether you’ve hit your goal. Instead, focus and measure all the positive activity and energy that you’re generating. The fact is, if you’re moving in the right direction, you’re one step closer to your goal. Life happens, very few of us planned for this pandemic and how disruptive it would be, so most goals are out the window. Yet that is true, it is not too late to realign and refocus your goal. (refer to bullet point #2)
Now is the hard part. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes. Create a mental image of yourself achieving your goal. Remember, when the voice whispers, “It’s time to give up,” don’t give in. When the voice whispers, “Go ahead, just one more cigarette,” or “It’s only one piece of cake,” whisper back, “Not this time mate!” – I love these honest conversations with myself, so so love them.
Every great performer, every athlete, every inventor, every entrepreneur — all share one thing in common: They achieved greatness because they had the confidence, skill, inner strength, and determination to make things happen. Something inside them said, “I’m not a quitter.”
So reach deep down into your soul and give it all you’ve got. There are times when you’ll reach your limit. Everything inside you will be telling you to stop and quit. It’s okay to take a rest. In fact, it’s a good idea to stop occasionally to reflect on and celebrate your progress, check out your new insights, and catch your breath.
Some people run into a wall and figure out a way to get around it. Other people brush themselves off and run into the wall again. What can you do better? What can you do differently to increase your likelihood of success? How can you work on not quitting?
Truth is you will be tested, but DON’T quit. Many people throw in the towel when they’re so close, not knowing how close they are to the finish line. That’s the real moment of truth. Give it that small extra effort that will put you over your own goal line!
While determination builds character, quitting is habit forming. When quitting becomes routine, you won’t even think twice about giving up next time. On the other hand, when you overcome even an insignificant challenge, you’ll gain the strength and motivation to confront your next challenge with confidence.
Isn’t it about time that you believed in yourself? Prove to yourself that you have what it takes to succeed. You have the confidence, skill, inner strength, and determination to take on the world. So get ready for your next challenge. It’ll be a whole lot easier this time. You’re about to make winning a habit because now you know why you quit.
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