“Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be.” – Wayne Dyer
The daily life can be busy, hectic and at times overwhelming, especially now with this Covid 19 pandemic. It may sometimes feel like bringing just a little more inner peace and calmness into your life is a hopeless wish. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Small and smart changes can over time make a big difference.
So today I’d like to share 15 of my own favorite tips for finding more peace and calmness in everyday life.
1. Set limits.
If your life is overfilled you may need to set some limits. So stop doing some of the least important things, the things that honestly don’t matter that much.
Set a limit for how many times you will check inboxes, Instagram, Twitter etc. per day. And say no if you really don’t have the time. Social media is attributed to be one of the stress triggers of our generation. This means you need to switch off sometimes in order to guard your peace.
2. Find a relaxation technique that works for you.
I like reading and working out to release tensions and recharge during the day.
We all stress differently, so we relax differently. What works for you? Long walks, music, yoga, meditation or going for a swim? Find out what that is and do that.
3. Don’t make mountains out of molehills.
This can create a lot of unnecessary stress that will just obliterate your peace. Small things seeming big and your mind over exaggerates.
When facing what looks like a mountain ask yourself questions like:
- Does someone on the planet have it worse than me right now?
- Will this matter in 5 years?
These questions help you to zoom out and realize that things may not be that bad and that you can handle them.
4. Slow down.
Your emotions work backwards too.
If you slow down while walking, moving your body or talking you can often start to feel less stressed (compared to if you move/talk fast).
Slowing down to decrease stress goes for many other things you do in everyday life too like riding your bicycle, working at your desk and eating.
5. Unclutter your world, unclutter your mind.
Just take 3 minutes to declutter your workspace or the room you’re in. An uncluttered, simplified and ordered space around you brings clarity and order to the mind.
So don’t stop there. Declutter, simplify and organize your home and life too to live in a more relaxing environment. This is very essential now that we are confined home for days, so make this a priority. Spring cleaning wouldn’t hurt aye?
6. Use a minimalistic workspace.
My work space is just a laptop on a wooden desk. I use a comfy chair and there is room for my glass of water beside the computer. That’s it.
There are no distractions here. Just me, the computer and the water. This brings peace and makes it easier to focus during my working hours. And I have made it a point to not have my mobile on me at this time so as to not get distracted.
7. Wake up early.
It’s a small habit but it has transformed much of my day from a slightly or very stressful time to periods of relaxation and recharging. When you attack your day early you free up more time as the day goes to relax and kick back.
8. Accept and let go.
Now is now. But if something negative from the past – something someone said, something someone did – is still on your mind then accept and let that feeling and thought in instead of trying to push it away.
When you accept that it is what it is then it starts to lose power.
And while the facts may still be there in your head the negative feelings become a lot less powerful.
At this point, let that thing go like you are throwing out a bag of rubbish. And direct your focus to the present moment and something better instead. There’s nothing that beats being at peace with your past. We all have wronged others, made mistakes and been wronged ourselves but it’s time to let go.
9. Ask instead of guessing.
Alright I am going to be honest with you, I fancy myself somewhat of a Jedi but reading minds is pretty much impossible. But still we often try it and create anxiety, uncertainty and misguided conclusions for ourselves.
So rather than guess and panic ask and communicate instead. It may sometimes be a bit hard at first but it can save you and the people around you so much trouble in the long run. Think peace…
10. Escape for a while.
Read a novel, watch your favourite TV-show or a movie. It’s simple but it works well to just release pressure and relax. Usually when I read my mind just takes me to another world and I do feel at peace, even when there is uncertainty in the world right now.
11. Solve a problem that is weighing down on you.
Don’t procrastinate anymore. If you know me personally then you know I do not put off things that can be done today. This is because tomorrow is not promised. Solve your problem and release it and all the underlying stress and tension that it is creating in your life.
You probably already know what to do, you are just not doing it yet. But the longer you wait the worse the tension inside becomes. Make that phone call and apologise, or tell that person that you love them.
If it’s chores that need to be done get up from your chair and get started on doing it for just 1-3 minutes right now. Small steps.
12. Disconnect over the weekend.
Right, so everyday now is like a weekend, I mean we have no idea what day of the week it is right? If you are working from home please leave your work – and work phone – where it belongs. Disconnect or at least limit your internet activity and the checking of your smart phone over the weekend.
And spend more of your Saturdays and Sundays with an undivided attention on your family, friends, hobby or mastering a skill. This may sound ridiculous now but trust me, when all this is over this tip will be gold.
13. Remember the 5 little words that’ll help you to stay sane: one thing at a time.
Say them loud with me, ONE THING AT A TIME. By keeping those words in mind and letting them guide you through your day and week you’ll be less stressed and more focused (and that will not only bring more inner peace but also help you to do a better and quicker job at pretty much anything).
When stressed, lost in a problem or the past or future in your mind breathe with your belly for two minutes and just focus on the air going in and out. Stupid you think? Nope, it is actually backed by science that if we focus on our breathing it will lower our stress levels and increase blood flow to the brain releasing the ‘fun juices’.
Doing this will calm your body down and bring your mind back into the present moment again.
15. Remember: There’s a day tomorrow too.
Sometimes you have a bad day. Or life interferes with your plans for the day, but like I said earlier if you put in your best effort and go 120% and still get no result, then stop. There is no point beating a dead horse. And so if you don’t get what you had planned or hoped for done, regroup, re-strategise and get back at it when you have reset.
The best way to handle such a situation is – in my experience – simply to kindly tell yourself that there’s a day tomorrow too and that you can get it done then. Beating yourself up is on the other hand not a smart or helpful strategy. What I will warn you though is only put it away for tomorrow if you are 120% sure it cannot be done today. It is east at this point to use this as justification to procrastinate, NO, do not do that. If it can be done then do it, focus on the things that you can actually change and change them.
I hope you and yours are staying safe. This Easter weekend my family and I will be staying home, hope you do the same. Stay safe and remember wherever you are, we are in this together.