“He who walks with wisemen will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm”
– Proverbs 13:20
Dear young people, you don’t have time to settle for anything in life! That’s with relationships, friendships, finances, spirituality, emotions, what colour shirt you should wear with those new shoes or a laundry list of other things! NEVER settle for anything less than what you deserve!
One thing that I’ve learned from my circle of friends is the saying:
“you become like the five people you spend the most time with”
Believe it or not, this statement is so true! Do you feel complacent when you are surrounded by people who aren’t constantly striving to be better? Or when you surround yourself with people who aren’t pushing you closer to your purpose and holding you accountable? There are four mutual things you and your squad should be doing:
1. Holding each other accountable to the goals that you each have set.
It can get very stressful when you have a list of goals that you want to accomplish and you don’t have anyone around to hold you accountable or push you to keep going. Your friends should be the wall that holds you up when you feel like giving up. One thing you and your friends should do is to keep a written record of what’s on your list to accomplish and check in periodically to see if everything is being done. If it’s not, trust you should be giving each other a kick in the butt!
2.Pushing each other spiritually.
If your squad isn’t pushing and motivating you to level up spiritually you may need to reevaluate your circle. You should always be able to call your friends when something is going wrong to pray and also when things are going great to give thanks to God. A few tips could be having a weekly bible study where you talk about a number of important topics, including; your week, things you are grateful for, worship together, and then study the word. This is a great way to stay spiritually connected with your squad.
3. Supporting each other in your new and existing ventures.
I know it’s impossible to support every single person, but you should be supporting your circle when they have new exciting things happening. It’s often said that strangers are more likely to support you than your own friends. Let’s try our hardest to support the people who have always supported us. I know I’m guilty of this sometimes. Being so busy and consumed by my own dreams that I don’t genuinely support my squad and they’re ALWAYS there for me! So you need to make sure that at least one person is there rooting them on when they have new ventures or new pursuits.
4. Getting each other ALL THE WAY together if you see each other slipping in any area of your lives or not representing your personal brands appropriately.
As a squad, you need to be able to put each other in check when any of you is not being the person they said they wanted to be or they are not doing the things they said they wanted to do. It’s important that you become hard on each other because it will do nothing but help you in the long run. The success of anyone one of you is the success of the whole squad, and failure too.
Make sure you are putting yourself around powerful people who are pushing you into your purpose! And be grateful every day for the people that have been placed in your life that will pull a quick…” Mate, you better level up on me! I challenge you to write down a list of your closest friends and next to each name put what value they add to your life and what value you add to theirs. If it does not balance out then you need to have some conversations and start adjusting. You can’t afford to have parasitic or neutral relationships. They need to be mutual and intentional, now go out there and be great.